Qualities of a mom striving to be more like Jesus

There’s no doubt about it that God created moms with great intention. He created motherhood to be fulfilling, and full of joy. God has given us the gift of our homes and children, and our gift back to Him is to steward those things well. Not all qualities of a mom can be admirable ones, and our job as a mom is to be able to see the weeds in ourselves and pick them out! What qualities can be weeded today, and traded for better ones tomorrow? Leave today with some new attributes to add to your mama resume, and biblical reference to help you in your journey. A journey closer to Christ in your motherhood.

#1: Qualities of a mom: trustworthy

Committing to things can be hard when we already feel stretched as mothers. How can we become a more reliable mama, friend, or wife right where we are?

Take something off of your to do list today and make space to run an errand for a friend, or do the thing you have been putting off. Try not so say yes to something unless you know you have the margin for it.

• Proverbs 12:22: “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.”

#2 Time is her tool

Have you ever laid in bed at the end of the day and thought “What did I do today?!”. Some days we are moving so fast we can’t catch a break. Other days we don’t know where to start, so nothing gets done.

If time is flying away from you, try timing your tasks and see what you’re spending most of your time on. Reallocate accordingly. If you aren’t getting any rest in your day try setting a timer just for you to sit and take a break. You deserve it!

#3 Qualities of a mom: willing to serve

If you stay at home with your kids, the daily tasks can get pretty mundane. If we aren’t careful we can loose sight of the big picture. Every dirty dish, mess to clean, and towel to fold is our holy work. We serve the Lord first, and he will bless us in our motherhood efforts.

If your chores are starting to feel mundane, try tagging a prayer with a chore. This takes our minds off of us and on to Christ.

• Colossians 3:23-24: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

#4 Always prepared

Have you ever forgotten something and another mom had it? Did your kid try to leave something at home to find that you snuck it in their backpack anyway knowing they would need it? It’s such a relief to feel safe and seen by others. See other people, before they see you in the room. Pack an extra snack for a kid. Have your nursing cover ready for another mom to use. Be ready to take on the day for your kids and someone else’s.

The proverbs 31 woman mastered this skill. Her home was blessed because of it.

#5 She choses kindness

Kindness isn’t always the easiest option to choose, but that’s when it should be put into practice the most. Being kind in the hardest moments produces more fruit than doing it when it comes easily.

If you are having a hard moment with your child, allow them to witness how you handle frustration. Maybe you take a deep breath, maybe you leave the room, maybe you pray. Kindness isn’t always glamourous.

• Proverbs 12:18: “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

#6 protects her boundaries

Mama bear coming through! As mamas are called to watch over our homes. What comes in and what goes out is up to us! It’s our natural instinct to want to protect what our kids watch, and the environments they are in. You’re doing a good job mama, it honors God when we monitor the actives going on in our homes!

What are your family values? What are your family’s boundaries? Write them down and say them daily. Explain to your children why you have values, and why it’s important that you as a mama protect those values. Talk about them often, and make every moment a teachable one.

• Joshua 24:15: ” As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

#7 Qualities of a mom:giver

Serving is a huge part of the life of a believer. The lord calls us to serve more than just ourselves, but to serve the body of Christ. Serving with our kids may look different, but it’s fruitful. It’s important that our children see a variety of ways that they can give. Seeing you drop off dinner to a friend, teaching them about tithe, making space to help another mama, serving in church! There is so much beauty in giving, and our kids have the best example through us.

• Deuteronomy 15:10: “Give generously to them and do so without a grudging heart; then because of this the LORD you God will bless you in all your work and in everything you put your hand to.”

#8 Rest is a priority

Qualities of a mom who rests yields nothing but fruit. Even though a mother’s day is full, we somehow still believe the lie that we are undeserving of rest. God gave mothers the beautiful gift to rest and it is our responsibility to follow through with it. Did you know that rest is still possible with your kids? Start with just 30 minutes of quiet time with your kids- explain the “rules” and see how quickly they learn to adapt.

• Matthew 11:28-29: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

#9 She makes mistakes

Anyone else thought moms were perfect until you became one?! As mamas we are far from perfect-we all need a savior! Sometimes we can be un-kind, sometimes we don’t handle things correctly, and even our tone can get a little sour. When those moments happen, owning up to our mistakes and following up with an apology allows our kids to see how we navigate those hard moments in real time. A simple ” Im sorry for…” can go a long way.

• 1 John 1:19: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

#10 She is content

In a world that’s never still, it’s hard not to be constantly feeling like you don’t measure up. Theres’ always a new “thing” going viral on the internet. Qualities of a mom can easily be compromised if we aren’t careful. We start to let comparison creep in more often than we’d like to admit it. Constantly comparing, wishing for different outcomes, and a lack of gratitude takes the enjoyment out of motherhood. Thanking God daily for the little and big things anchors us in Him. He’s been so good to us! Every evening think of one thing you are thankful for and actually thank God for blessing you with it.

• 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18: “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is Gods will for you in Christ Jesus.”

#11 she dreams

When a mama has a dream on her heart it won’t be contained! Dreaming isn’t dead. Dreaming is life giving. God gives us the authority to cast vision for our household. If our home doesn’t look like what we want it to, we have the power through him to change it. What goals do you have in mind for your family? Maybe it’s starting a new tradition, maybe it’s a new routine, maybe theres a new habit you want to teach your kids. With Gods help, we can accomplish any dream He’s placed in our hearts.

• Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

#12 her home is open

Inviting others into our home is like working out a muscle. The more you do it, the easier it becomes! It can be an encouragement to other parents to connect with your family. A simple pizza night, or potluck can just be the thing you need to spark your love for hosting. Our homes can be an amazing tool and share the gospel. You don’t need all the fancy gadgets, you quite literally just need love. Your heart for people will speak to them far beyond any material thing.

• Romans 12:13: ” Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”

#13 Unity is her priority

A thriving family is a threat to satan. A broken family gives him momentum. When we fight for our family we are fighting beyond than the things we can see. Every sibling argument, tantrum, and interruption to the peace of our home can be just one step closer to Jesus. We set the culture in our homes. When our unity is interrupted we can look to Jesus, and his perfect peace.

#14 Her eyes are fixed on jesus

When motherhood becomes less about us and more about how Jesus sustains us, the load gets lighter. We don’t have to be afraid of the hard moments. We can turn to Jesus, and He will guide us.

#15 She is Unhurried

Play dates, sports, family events, the list goes on and on. A lot of our days are spent in pick up lines, and fast paced environments that just seemed rushed. How can we incorporate rhythms that slow us down? Jesus always took moments to go away and be still. Instead of rushing through our days, where can we find pockets of slowness? Maybe this means giving yourself more margin on your calendar. Or getting ready earlier, so you don’t feel rushed going out the door.

#16 She challenges her Family

Our kids are so capable. They are each blessed with unique gifts and abilities, and some are still yet to be discovered. Our biggest job as a mama is to speak life into our children as they discover their strengths and weaknesses. We can find ways to challenge their skills by engaging in their favorite activities with them, asking them questions about a topic they enjoy, and by being more present. Our genuine interest in our kids brings them joy!

#17 Qualities of a mom: Consistent

Consistency doesn’t look the same daily. Sometimes is 10% and other times is 110%. The point is- you showed up, mama! Your kids don’t need to see it done perfectly, they just need to see that you followed through. We can practice consistency by making sure that if we say something, we will follow through!

• Matthew 5:37: “All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.

#18 Her husbands crown

• Proverbs 12:4: ” A wife of noble character is her husbands crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

We have the power to build our homes and tear them down with our words! We can honor our husbands daily by encouraging them and speaking highly of them to our kids. Go Around the kitchen table list off things about your husband that you are thankful for! It will bless and encourage him in his fatherhood.

#19 intentional community

Truly, motherhood was never meant to be done alone. Qualities of a mom who embraces her community makes her deeply rich. When we lean into our village we don’t feel so alone. Mama, there are people willing to help, mentor, and do life alongside us if we just let them. It’s hard to ask for help, but in the vulverable moments is when we can find secure community.

Check in with a mama friend today. Exchange prayer requests. Encourage each other. Challenge each other.

#20 Qualities of a mom: She perseveres

• James 1:2-4: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance, character; and character, hope.”

Adapting to new qualities as a mom can be challenging and rewarding. Sometimes our daily efforts can leave us feeling exhausted. Who knew that trials could bring us joy?! Whatever your latest struggle is mama, know that God has heard your request and He’s working on it as we speak. When you face trials, call them out! God made us mothers because he knew these trials would draw us closer to Him!

#21 She is constantly being refined

If our kids got paid a dollar for every mistake we’ve ever made as moms I think we’d be rolling in millions. Refinement isn’t always fun, and sometimes it stings. We have never arrived, and that might be a good thing. It only emphasizes our constant need for a savior. We can ask God daily for renewal, a fresh perspective on motherhood and direction on the next thing to say or do. Motherhood is holy work. No holy work can be done without the father. God doesn’t just patch us up he makes us completely new. Thank you Jesus!

#22 Qualities of a mom: She trains DILIGENTLY

• Proverbs 22:6 : “Train up a child the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Training is necessary. Our children actually desire it. Actions speak louder than words. If what we say is different than what we actually do then how can our kids learn how to be christ-like? We can start by teaching them key bible stories, maybe putting on a fun skit to teach them valuable lessons. Most importantly what we model to them is what they will replicate. God, help us to be diligent in training our children well!

#23 He(the Lord) truly satisfies her soul

The reality is, these qualities of a mom reap no benefit if we aren’t connected the vine. No dish washed, towel folded, and counter wiped can bring true and lasting joy. Our joy doesn’t come from what we accomplish, or how good of moms we are. Instead how good is the HE that sustains us. God restores and satisfies our souls.

Which qualities of a mom will you add to your resume today? How can those around you encourage you to build new, desirable qualities? Revisit this post when you feel up to a challenge. The Lord will always meet us in our desires when it benefits His kingdom greatly. Blessings upon your home, mama.